Men Talk To The Pussy – Part 3

22Dec09

So you have decided to be more open and eat pussy or you are ready to hone your skills. Where do we start? From the bottom of course! (pun intended)

As mentioned, cunnilingus like fellatio, is an art form that with enough practice and time can make you into an oral connoisseur. The act of licking female genitals is very common and practiced throughout many cultures around the world. It was used in Chinese Dynasty (T’ang) to symbolically elevate the woman and humble the man (some of you men definitely need to take note). There are some things to consider before during and after the act of eating the pussy. Keep these things in mind as they will enable the both of you to have a more pleasurable experience.

Explore. Take the time to explore the pussy you are about to dine on. Get to know the different stimulation points i.e. the clitoris, labia, g-spot etc. Understanding the makeup of the vagina will equip you with the knowledge you need to perform cunnilingus. Reading books, looking at pictures and watching porn are good ways but the best way is having one in your face. That way you get to see first hand and touch, taste and smell. Basically you get to sample your product of choice and get familiar before you dive in tongue first.

Communication.. It is good to know and be aware of what will please your woman. Learning the right amount of pressure she needs or whether she prefers direct or indirect stimulation on the clitoris will be vital to helping you understand what she wants. If need be you can have her even masturbate for you. How does this help? By her stimulating herself, you can learn where she is touching and what she is doing to get pleasure. Observing this will give you an idea of where to use your tongue and fingers and of course with time incorporate some other stimulation i.e. stimulating nipples or anus at the same time.

G-spot. It is important to be aware of where the g-spot is. A g-spot orgasm will feel like the Red Sea has parted. It is another major stimulus point for a woman and it is located just inside the front wall of the vagina – feels like a round raised area of fatty tissue the size of a dime (some women who have g-spot orgasms ejaculate from the Skene glands…remember? squirting). Knowing how to stimulate this ultimate erogenous zone will have your woman in convulsions.

Now men, it is first important to convince the woman that you are into eating pussy. You can tell her by talking dirty to her in between your eatings, you can also moan while you are performing. Eating pussy while she is watching tv or reading (outside of a bedroom atmosphere) is a great way to show her that you are comfortable. By also eating her pussy and having no expectations of her sucking your cock you are demonstrating that your enjoyment of cunnilingus has reached beyond the point of reciprocation.

What may make both of you feel comfortable is showering together. Not only is it romantic (insert roll of eyes here) but it is also the step of getting clean right before the act itself. That way if you are apprehensive of smell and smegma, thorough washing can achieve a clean eating experience. (As a side note for you women, it might be best if you shave that way you help prep your man by clearing the path making your pussy more inviting and easier to find.)

To start, it may be best if the woman is lying on her back with the legs spread open and you are laying on your stomach face facing her vagina. If your goal is to bring your woman to orgasm, as it should be, then be prepared to spend anywhere from five min to two hours. This is a marathon not a sprint (after becoming an expert you can perfect your skill and time may never be a factor). The only reason time should be allotted is due to the fact that a) more time spent in pleasing her; but most importantly b) every woman is different. Some orgasm in ten minutes others in one hour. You can prepare your tongue by deploying your tongue muscles. By periodically (or daily like some of us women), flicking your tongue up and down and side to side will help in strengthening the muscles. Doing it fast or slow interchangeably will help in how you apply pressure.

Women enjoy multiple stimulation of other erogenous zones as well i.e. anus, breasts etc and it is great to incorporate this as mentioned while performing the act but we will concentrate on the act. What you could start with is foreplay before the act to heighten her sensations and sensitivity to what you are about to do. Kissing her or licking her nipples, gently sucking on them is a great way to start as well as rubbing on her clitoris with your finger(s). You could also lick in the crevice of her thighs around her pussy to relax her mind and make her ready to receive. When you feel she is ready you can make your way to the clit or she will direct you there.

You can start your great debut (or redo) by moving your tongue slowly around her vagina in between the folds, up the slit til you reach her clit. You can control the amount of pressure you put on it. You can move your tongue in a circular motion around her clit or flick it up and down (you will know if you need to adjust your rhythm and speed because of her reaction or if she tells you too). You can also do what I like to call “french kissing” the clit. It is where you also wrap you lips around her clit while your tongue is still licking her and it will create a sucking motion. The key is to envelop her clit into your mouth gently inciting another sensation. You do not necessarily have to concentrate on the clit. Licking the in the vaginal opening is a good stimulating point as well and one that can be stimulated simultaneously with her clit. She can be rubbing on her clit or you can while you are pushing your tongue in and out of her pussy (your tongue acts like a ‘mini cock’). Of course the reverse is also true if you are licking her and sucking her clit, you can use your fingers in and out her pussy. Once you become skillful enough, you can give her a simultaneous clitoral and g-spot orgasm (the idea of this is calls for a masturbation session right now).

There are women who vary in their cunnilingus preferences. Some will prefer that you remain down there from start to finish. Others will prefer you eating her pussy to right before she cums and then have you dick her down until she does orgasm. Otherwise you will know she is ready to cum because her clit will swell. When it does, this is the time you really need to put your licking and sucking skills into action. As she is cumming, continue to lick and suck drinking up all her juices until she is spent. Keep in mind that once she is finished cumming, a woman is usually extra sensitive. She may not want you to touch her clit as it takes some time for her to recover. However if you are into Dominance play, she is looking to possibly squirt or she just likes getting her pussy eaten you can continue beyond this point to giving her multiple orgasms.

Men, the feeling of knowing you just pleased your woman, or any woman, this way is a satisfying one. And this is just a tip of the iceberg. Just wait until the two of you engage in position 69 or multiple tongues on the same erogenous zones, you will begin to thank me – might even invite me over to show me just how well you are doing *wink*.

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